Holding Spaces for Healing Through Connection.

Continuing with our AddictNoMore theme that we need to move beyond terms and concepts such as “addiction” and move closer into the heart of the matter. We need to be always governed by unconditionality and non-judgment, and we can then become more aware that the suffering around substance use is more to do with relational and experiential disconnections of hearts, souls, and minds. With this awareness, we find the central and pivotal point to changing our conditions of suffering is connection. This is to connect with our more genuine and authentic self (not our false self), connect with each other, and connect with the bigger universe. It is important that these connections occur within a context of experiential unconditionality of being (i.e., a natural state of love), mindful awareness and within a context of our own agentic-re-creation of meanings and stories of meaning (a sort of co-creation). To do all this we propose the venue of small support meetings within our respective communities. These meetings can be shaped around people’s problems with using drugs and or expanded to any sort of experience of suffering (i.e., family conflict, socio-economics, other sorts of psychological distresses and “diagnoses”).

Central to the aim of these meetings is to hold space for the paradoxes (dialectic truths) around healing. (Borrowing these paradoxes from the book “The complexity of Connections” by Judith V. Jordon and colleagues) these paradoxes are:

  1. Vulnerability leads to growth
  2. Pain can be experienced in safety
  3. Talking about disconnection leads to connection
  4. Conflict between people can be tolerated in their connection.
  5. Group identity requires both conflict and cohesion
  6. In order to stay connected many people feel the need to keep part of themselves out of connection (this is a big stumbling block in our relationships and how we feel)

And also paradoxes as discussed by others such as Carl Rogers:

7. It is only after I accept myself, that I am then able to change.

What the Meeting Can Look Like.

INTRO: Group co-ordinator introduces and explains the following concepts to set guidelines for group interactions;

a) What is safe

b) What is listen

c) What is empathy, non-judgement and authenticity


Co-ordinator asks someone to begin with sharing/speaking of an experience of vulnerability, grief, and or suffering in their present moment (or recent past).


Co-ordinator begins with saying, “I hear your ____________ and I accept it, we all accept it and are with you, beside you, in it in this moment”. Co-ordinator invites other group members to reflect how the person’s story has touched them and maybe how hearing this story has shed perspective on their own life and journeys (if genuinely so).


Now the person who first shared has the opportunity to expand on how they are feeling in the moment. What was most significant in what you heard in others reflections about your story?


Questions open to everyone in the group to answer;

a) How has our now changed during this meeting?

b) How has our new now, how can our new now change tomorrow? the rest of our day?


This is a final moment of silence for people to quietly in themselves to allow for a moment of gratitude that only we together could have arrived at.




AddictNoMore – Mission Statement




  • Ongoing activities in and support of our local shelters (and youth shelters).
  • Ongoing street-level engagement and support.
  • On going social media blogging, tweeting (@Addict_No_More) and the creation of real space “zones of liberation” wherein we disseminate informed opinions and arguments around “addiction”, “drugs”, true “drug” experiences, including the deconstruction of deviance (“addiction” and other oppressive discourses) applying ideas from liberation psychology, mindfulness and narrative therapeutic approaches.
  • Ongoing online support to both those using drugs, not using, and providing support and guidance to helping professionals and educators.

If you wish to help in our mission, or if you are looking for help, contact robert@addictnomore.ca


OTTAWA Help Information – Where To Get Help in City of OTTAWA downtown



click on the link above (where it says Ottawa_help_info in orangish/red) for help info/pdf or the picture below to make it bigger,…. hope you find the help you require to start you on your journey in taking your life back! God Bless you my friend, peace!

THE NEW PARADIGM OF RECOVERY; group meeting structure and talking points.

The time has arrived to propose a new sort of community gathering (meeting) in which people with the history of the label “Addiction” can engage in the discussion of ideas. This new sort of meeting under the banner of AddictNoMore bars no one. Users, non-users, recovered, those contemplating abstinence, those using without duress….we need to move beyond barriers between us and realise that users and non-users alike can engage with each-other in supportive conversation so to advance ourselves in our concepts and notions of living well. We would only maintain the only requisite to attendance would be to not be disruptive, nor engage in any substance use during meetings, not to have any substances on person at any meeting (at least keep it to yourself). AddictNoMore does neither support drug use nor judge it as wrong, rather we understand there is nothing intrinsic in a substance that is bad in itself instead it is the context (the sort of relationship one engages with the substance) that is often problematic. That being said the shared social reality is that that drug dependence (especially abuse of harder drugs) will not really get anyone anywhere in the long run but a dead-end (but this is a realisation for the individual to make and if judged upon the individual can only be exacerbating of the problem). So all this being said lets begin.

Group meeting discussion points and general outline;

So basically spend about 10 to 15 minutes on each point, to speak you need to hold the speaking stone which gets handed to to the next person who wants to speak by the person just finishing, everyone sits in a circle facing each other, meeting convenes when at 75 minute point – speaker stone is any item that is useful or handy or if someone can bring some sort of small rock, or a feather, or small branch to pass around to signify it is there turn to speak.

  • expressions of gratitude – members volunteer moments, events they feel gracious for – (example, a kid being born, having a place to meet and talk, finding an old lost friend who is doing well, …. and so on…
  •  is “addiction” a conformist way of using substances? Is addiction a sort of social construction (something that we learnt) that confines people? It it real? In what ways is it real? In what ways is it not real? can drugs be used without dependence? what are other dependencies besides substances? is dependence bad or good?
  •  narratives of recovery – members can volunteer to share their story of moving beyond drug dependence, either via abstinence and, or maintenance…include in your story your low points and high points of using – what changed, what maybe sparked the change, how you changed, what you are happy for and what you could change if you could.
  • is using drugs the only way to get high? why is it we desire to get high? is this a response to a pain, or a void, or is this a natural inclination?
  • to use of not use?
  • what are concrete problems we are experiencing today how can we as a group work concretely to alleviate these problems starting today (this may be about the need for harm reduction for those using, this may be about employment problems – how to find job training and work, how to access continued education, what we can do to sleep better, eat better, pass time better, good books to read, good shows to watch, the need to organise further events such as hikes, picnics, group meditation, exchange of local information for accessing services such as detox, food programs, safe spots to chill, good parks to meditate in or toss a frisbee…)


The idea of AddictNoMore is that the term “addiction” is anachronistic – that the narrative around drugs and addiction has become over-saturated and that it must be abandoned. That rather we need to deal with ourselves as human beings unique in ourselves yet sharing a common source and common destination. We are each each other’s comrade – ultimately the journey in our liberation is intwined in each and one other’s journey. This is about synergy. Only through good synergy can we overcome.

Happy sharing, wish you a great experience,



The magic ingredients of non-judgment and unconditionality !

      These are the special ingredients to the food we cook up for and with youth each Saturday at our local youth shelter; the ingredients of non-judgment and unconditionality. At our local youth shelters we find those of us who may be at an important turning point in a hard journey. This is an opportunity to share in connection through a simple experience of cooking, baking, and eating together. Understanding many of us have experienced similar paths through broken families, abuse, trauma, substance use, disconnection, distrust, hunger, and of course old fashioned oppression.

     If we are going to promote positive change, we must recognise the problem of our societal narratives. That these narratives are ‘cliche’ but also dangerously self-fulfilling and insidious (not to mention stigmatising). Narratives like ‘dangerous criminal’, the ‘homeless person’, narratives of the ‘mental person’, the ‘drug addict’, the ‘drug dealer’, the ‘gang banger’ and so on and so on. Not to deny that at times such behaviour or symptoms can exist, however more importantly we must see first the person and the context of the person (in which one size does not fit all). Just because a person did that, or does that, does not necessarily make them that ‘type’ of person – they are many reasons for behaviours/symptoms and mistakes do happen in life. Instead, if we can raise awareness and see how when we adopt such narratives (either for ourselves or in how we see each other) what we are doing is participating in oppression; oppression of both ourselves and others.

     Without such narratives it is easy to feel a little crazy – and it is quite normal to be a little crazy in a world of such breakneck change.  To dismantle narratives of oppression (in how we view ourselves and each other) is to be aware of our being-ness as unlimited and not limited to social character roles (and other status-quos) as put forward by and through dominant systems of control (i.e., the criminal-justice system, the media, moral-enthusiasts, the pharmacracy … just to name a few). To be aware of our being-ness (outside of stigmatising labels) is a powerful step in growing into a personhood of power. Importantly there are mini-steps that we can take. For example;

(1) growing positive relations with those of us who share in our experience – this is to be there for each other and one self in genuine ways that count.

(2) Accepting one’s own authentic self, person, and history – this is understanding who one as situated in the present moment – separate from a past that is now over and importantly facing a positive future that is about to happen to the real self (not the false self of broken images of how others saw or may see us).

As Eric Fromm wrote “It means to wake up, to shed illusions, fictions, and lies, to see reality as it is. The person who wakes up is the liberated person, the person whose freedom cannot be restricted either by others or by oneself.” (Fromm & Suzuki, 1960) What better way to wake up and live in truth than through a kindness containing non-judgement and unconditionality and a little good food for and with both ourselves and each other.

We wish you all happy living in the truth.




Finding new paths forward together!

AddictNoMore is grateful for what was another great year of seized opportunities of growth with our sisters and brothers in the regions of Niagara Ontario. Engaged on the front lines of ‘addiction’ and ‘poverty’ (aka disempowerment). We would like to pass on some observations.


Addiction is not a simple issue of ‘drugs’. Just as the criminal-justice approach has shown to only exacerbate the problem, a disease model concept in fact may only be further perpetuating and making a problem worse. It seems the same mechanisms of the construction of deviance are at play with both styles of addressing addiction. Whereas the justice systems punishes drug use with the label of ‘crime’ so the disease model punishes drug taking behaviour with the label/stigma of ‘disease/illness’. Both approaches are simply repressive enforcement of societal norms that actually have no ontological reality to begin with. AddictNoMore challenges the current trend of twitter and facebook parades of mental health style posts in regards to drug use – we maintain that the continued enforcement of the regime of repressive normalcy (to do with human behaviour) and undue socialization of economic, material, and political ideologies only makes problems worse. As Carl Jung wrote ‘dirt is matter in the wrong place, and the more civilized we become the dirtier we get.” It is shameful when social services and good-will organizations both wittingly and unwittingly put forward and advance an oppressive narrative in the name of helping people.

Despite all of our best efforts the war against the suffering and disempowerment around substance use is being lost; it seems the losses are unimaginable. With hard drug use beginning as early as adolescence, young people with no family nor any support network at all are being forced to negotiate substance dependence in an economically, socially, and spiritually ravaged Niagara Region.


AddictNoMore maintains the root of all problematic substance use is ‘disempowerment’. This is when a person finds themselves in a sort of need-state (either material, psychological, or spiritual depravation) but has no real viable means of growth/overcoming. This “absence of means” is today often systematic (with the break-down of the family as our reproductive technology, also economic and social justice issues, but also the failure of organized faiths and their people to deliver and teach transcendental values). As well, the “absence of means” can often be personal (in instances of trauma and abuse). Disempowerment can then be perpetuated by the disempowered themselves, by people having internalized social beliefs that are really oppressive narratives meant to substantiate and legitimize a status quo world that is unjust (a person then can become their own worst enemy). In all such examples however, the one constant is substances. In any case regardless of the differences, ‘drugs’ remain the easy and only available partner to our woes (either street drugs or pharma – and we challenge the thoughts about which are safer). Within our system of profit pursuits, eager capitalists (corporations, cartels) have made available at all levels of society (and at all levels of price) different substances that people can turn to instead of other people, or their own internal psychological resilient strengths and, or spiritual essence and guide.


AddictNoMore suggests the following means to immediately begin to take our people back!

1.Empowerment; via love (unconditional regard, non-judgement and forgiveness). Teaching that defaults are not a result of our individual biology, but a manifestation of blocked paths to growth.

2. Social Power; re-establishing communities that empower their members through horizontal (non-  professional, community based) guidance. Enabling communities through economic resources that include real access to education that is growth orientated. Assisting communities by putting expert knowledge in the hands of community members synonymous to ideas of community and liberation psychology.

3. Transcendental guidance; going beyond tolerance of different beliefs but encouraging people to reconnect with each their own life source and find in it their own heritage, tradition, culture, and truths which can lead the person to an internal state of otherness yet connection – a truly powerful way of being not unlike Maslow’s ideas of peak/plateau experiences and, or mystical experiences chronicled in the writings of Joseph Campbell.


As we close 2017 we leave you with some pictures of good cooking and loving from our local youth shelter. We hope you all a greater and greater understanding for 2018; the idea that the greatest truths are only those that get better by growing.

God bless!


AddictNoMore; our mission statement & ongoing community engagements

AddictNoMore; our core tenements;

  • Unconditional love.
  • To raise awareness of “addiction” and “drug” realities.
  • To work towards the creation of a functional, fair, and safe place for “recovery” – geared and available to all, including those with no family, institutional, and or societal support.
  • Street-level engagement and intervention (for purposes of support).
  • A steadfast commitment to liberation and empowerment.

AddictNoMore continues its engagement in communities;

  • On going activities and programs in our local youth shelters.
  • On going street level support to those who may be ‘working the streets’.
  • On going social media blogging, tweeting (@Addict_No_More) and the creation of real space “zones of liberation” wherein we disseminate informed opinions and arguments around “addiction”, “drugs”, true “drug” experiences, including the deconstruction of deviance (“addiction” and other oppressive discourses) applying ideas from liberation psychology, mindfulness and narrative therapeutic approaches.
  • On going online support for the purpose of those in ‘addiction’ to network and offer each other support.

If you wish to help in our mission, or if you are looking for help, contact robert@addictnomore.ca or tweet to us, or post in our chatroom forum.


Sharing, Cooking, and Learning with youths in local shelters – Outreach Activities in Niagara Region . Sept,23.2016;

AddictNoMore is actively engaged with youths in shelters in Niagara Region. We give cooking and baking lessons while at the same time we bake and cook meals for everyone who may be in the shelter at that time. This is a new approach to interacting with the front lines of ‘drug addiction’.  Such activities gives us time to interact and connect with the minds of our young people, demonstrate productive role modelling, answer questions about drug use, and discuss broader and yet pertinent ideas, truths and realities such as oppression, belief, constructions of deviance, and of course life skills.

We believe that working with youths specifically at shelters in our region is especially apt and effective in finding those we believe to be in most need of support, but most of all an opportunity to find many of our sisters and brothers who are engaged in the ongoing struggle of life. We identify as ‘recovered addicts’ ourselves with young women and men in our shelters from ages of 16 to 24 who are already well versed with drugs in our society. Similarly we all are well versed with the precedents and perpetuators to ‘drugs’ and ‘addiction’ such as trauma, abuse, stigma, guilt, shame, economic oppression, racism, gender oppression, and medicalization of deviance.  

Our first approach with youths is unconditional  love and unbiased support and praise of their own demonstrated resilience to hardships. Among the youths we share, cook and break bread with lies the promise of our age; the finest gold which has been refined by fire. It is yet most heart wrenching to meet teenagers who are already on opiate maintenance and been through the wretchedness of dependence of hard drugs. As well it is hard to sometimes let someone find their own way in but hopefully through darkness. We remain steadfast in our commitment to non-judgment and to empowerment and liberation through love. This is after all a journey to the light, after all is said and done we know that even in the darkest places their are the most important things to be found. After all as it states in MATTHEW 20: 16 “Thus, the last will be first, and the first will be last.”

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Applying ideas from Liberation Psychology & Critical Psychology to ‘Addiction’.

According to Liberation Psychology ( rooted from Liberation Theology) “our account of justice has to denounce injustice, but must also indicate modes of resistance instead of encouraging complicity.” What does this mean for the realm of ‘Addictions’?

  1. Maybe drug culture itself, drug use, and the template of ‘Addiction’ and ‘Recovery’ are themselves reactive narratives of resistance to both societal and personal/psychological oppression. This is not to disparage drug culture as simply ‘reactive rebellion’, but encourages a view that our external influences (very much social that) have shaped not just the dialogue of laws, drugs and treatments but shaped how we conceptualize such things themselves. For instance does my drug use mean I lack control of body, or suffer a ‘chronic relapsing brain disease’, or does it mean that I symbolically resist bio power, governmentality and common status quo values of consumerism ( maybe on a personal note I am resisting an oppressive parent, or spouse). If this is the case treatment for drug use should instead be no treatment for drug use, and instead be an empowering of the individual to assert themselves as free and powerful agents in society without the necessity of self-defeating modes of resistance.
  2. Regardless of the causes to ‘Addiction’ whether if they be biological, developmental, caused by personal suffering such as trauma, or suffering of sociological oppression (ie. ‘racial’ oppression) – the causes may not be relevant to what will in fact help as a solution. Critical theory would discount the importance of cause and effect medical models as much the product of, and bias of, a Western Discourse. As can be learnt from the story of the rainmaker  in Taoism – sometimes causality has nothing to do with the solution.
  3. Further consistent with critical theory treatment that is overly focused on causality may in fact be adverse – especially along lines of the bio-medical model. For instance the moment that someone is diagnosed they are subjected to a host of relationships in which they are powerless ( i.e., doctor – patient relationship. Suddenly the person diagnosed holds no knowledge of their own condition and is subject to their diagnosis in which medical authorities hold all knowledge, medicines and solution. Such a relationship is itself producing of illness not to mention deeply stigmatizing.
  4. Much  to do with research in drug use and ‘Addiction’ is shaped by common narratives born into the bio-medical mode ( and yes even the bio-social-psyc model) from western, white, upper class, male ideologies of individuality and capitalism. This basically means that much of the research is biased. Biased in its assumption of the individual participant as a basic research unit, that numbers and statistics can represent living realities in truth, and even biased in assuming procedures such as ‘double-blind’ and ‘random’ sampling are purposely accurate. The simpler truths (although they may lack economies of profit) may be more honestly accurate. For example, drug use is natural behaviour and pathological behaviour of drug use is instead a product of the institutions of law and medicine that seek for some reason to eradicate it ( actually they are trying to patent drug use and product it out in a capitalist economy as medicine).

There is much to be read outside of the common thread that can benefit ideas of ‘addiction’, ‘recovery’, but most importantly benefit people who are need of the empowerment by ideas and not substances. For example, ideas about sociology, and social psychology, including ideas of ‘bio power’, ‘constructions of deviance’, ‘inter-group behaviour’, ‘the psychology of social justice’ and as well ‘iatrogenesis’  – all which can shed light on the current dark realities emerging from current statistics on drug use in contemporary society. In light of this conversation return on point with our core mission statement – that is the first of AddictNoMore’s tenant goals; “Unconditional love” – this is our first and most important step.

All the best on your journey!

To all our friends, please spread the word ‘AddictNoMore’!

To all our friends,

Addictnomore continues its work in the Regions of Niagara and Hamilton-Wentworth offering unconditional love and support to those who have had a problem with drugs in their lives and with those who are still using. Addictnomore is involved in ongoing street level outreach especially aimed as support to those who are working the streets. We also are involved doing work in local youth shelters of the region and of course we are on social media offering informational and emotional support on a daily basis.

We invite anyone with a personal journey that involves drug use to join us in our outreach activities ( just message us), join us in online chat on our chatroom forum, or on Twitter ( @Addict_No_More ).

Please spread the word of Addictnomore  to our sisters and brothers who have personal experience with ‘drugs’ in their lives! Please invite them to join us as friends on social media.  We are about breaking down myths and ‘status quo’ misconceptions about ‘drugs and crime’ by spreading positive informative ideas, positives of recovery – while at the same time trying to point out the reality that things are not so clear cut as “good and bad, right and wrong”.Importantly ‘addiction’ itself (though very real in its physical and psychological respects including cognitive, metabolic, developmental, attachment, and behavioural components) is at the same time very much a social construction that can actually limit and actually work to control us, even work against us. Every human being is a free agent in society on their own personal journey of truth and meaning. We are all in different places of this journey.

Addictnomore wishes to be support for anyone on this path of discovery – and we invite anyone with an experience of ‘drug use’ to join us on social media. We are trying to reach out through both the streets and the internet to create a network of people all who share life experience with drugs. With this network established we can empower each other with each own’s stories and be a source of information and emotional support. As well anyone is welcome to join us in outreach activities in Regions of Niagara and Hamilton-Wentworth – just message us.

Thanks for your time, and much love and respect!,